Grief Is Not A Dirty Word

From Rock Bottom to Renewal: Grief Transformation and Abuse Recovery with Elissa Swihart (Part 2 of 2)

Nick Gaylord Episode 62

Episode 62 (Part 2) - Elissa Swihart

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS

Survivors navigating trauma, grief, domestic violence, and post-separation challenges.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET

A deeper understanding of how grief, healing, triggers, and survivorship continue years after abuse—and how purpose and community transform the recovery journey.

DESCRIPTION:

In this powerful conversation, Nick guides Elissa through the second half of her story—a deeply human look at what long-term healing from domestic violence really feels like. Elissa opens up about triggers that still appear years later, how grief intersects with trauma, and why survivorship is an ongoing process of unlearning and rebuilding. She shares the emotional and spiritual turning points that led her into advocacy and the extraordinary, grief-anchored moment that connected her to Tala, the young woman whose legacy inspired Tala’s Closet. Nick and Elissa also discuss the impact of post-separation abuse, the realities of healing while co-parenting, and the courage required to reclaim your identity after trauma. The conversation expands into community, purpose, grief education, and the life-changing ripple effect Elissa now creates for survivors everywhere. This episode is both a testament to the power of healing and an invitation to believe that rock bottom is not the end of your story.
 
 

Elissa interview - transcript -…

This episode answers:

  • What does long-term healing from domestic violence and trauma actually look like?
  • Why do triggers and flashbacks appear years after leaving an abusive relationship?
  • How does grief show up in survivors long after the abuse ends?
  • What is Tala’s Closet, and how does it support survivors starting over?
  • How can someone still in an abusive relationship recognize the moment they’re ready to leave?

Key Takeaways:

  • Survivorship is an ongoing grief-infused process of unlearning fear and rediscovering identity.
  • Triggers often surface unexpectedly, even in healthy relationships, and do not signal failure.
  • Post-separation abuse, legal abuse, and co-parenting challenges extend trauma long after leaving.
  • Tala’s Closet grew from grief, purpose, community, and Elissa’s commitment to honoring a life lost to domestic violence.
  • Rock bottom is not permanent—healing begins when survivors reclaim self-trust, anger, and agency. 


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